
A friend of mine accused me of being a cyborg, because I just dont seem to emotionally react to relationships the way a lot of my female friends do. Let's not get it twisted, when I love I love hard, and when I am not in love well....I am just hard lol.
Realistically though I just never seem to look at relationships with men with the same set of rose colored ideals that a lot of my female friends do. Case in point, first impressions. Gentlemen I am going to let you in on a little secret about women- we make EVERYTHING complicated, even something as simple as "Hello".
When a man sees a beautiful women in a bar, office, club, gym, whereever, his first instinct is divide and conquer. He is attracted to her physical appearance and honestly he just wants to get in where he can FIT in.
The reverse is not so simple for a woman. When a woman is approached by a man, she has already sized him up, deciphered by his build if he works out (a good thing, it means he takes care of himself), if he is well dressed (another check- this indicates he has good taste and is financially stable) if he looks good and is well gromed- white teeth, neat hair, clipped nails etc (yup- the kids will definitely be cute).
Now if a man passes on all these cylinders then a woman's reponse to his "hello" will help her determine if he is a good provider (did he offer to purchase a drink- somehow translates into he is generous), good in bed (the way a man walks, his rhythm his carriage etc says a lot about how he will man-handle a woman behind closed doors). Fellas as you can tell @ this point, a simple introduction has reached Freudian proportions and the very future of humanity now lies in your hands.
Basically by the time you walk a away a woman has mentally had sex with you, met your family and friends, planned and had the wedding and named the kids and decided if you will have a son or a daughter first- yup hello can be that intense!
The point of this little breakdown into woman's psyche is this- I keep on seeing girlfriends, heartbroken, confused and disappointed about the relationships their in, while men are thoroughly confused about when it got so complicated when they were just kicking it.
Ladies and Gents, life is far less complicated but deeper than we allow it to be.
Ladies- getting to know someone is not rocket science, so stop trying to decipher conversations and actions as if your are working on particle physics, take each thing for what it is and accept it.
Fellas- we know we arent easy to figure out or live with, but that is what makes so damn interesting, just keep it 100 with us and life will be a lot easier.
Try it out and see if I am wrong :).
Have a good day y'all
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